In-Law-Confrontation

Well dinner last night went really well. I was very nervous all day. I had a pit in my stomach and my heart was racing just thinking about the fact that it was going to end up being an ugly confrontation. I was going over scenarios in my head, trying to convince myself how to stay calm and collected when that is not in my nature to do so.

It was all for naught. They were pleasant, we were pleasant (at least I hope we were). The talk turned to the wedding and I think when they realized that this isn't the most extravagant wedding there is and the only thing we expected of them were what was traditionally the grooms family responsibility and the rest was just participation, all was good. All in all it was a nice dinner.

I sincerely hope that is the last bit of wedding drama for this event. Roger is having surgery next week on his hip. He has been in a lot of pain since December and they have finally found the cause. A sports hernia. We are very relieved because he has a history of stress fractures in the same areas and we afraid that was what happened again. The hernia appears to be fixable and recovery is only supposed to be a week or so. It will be so nice to see him not in pain for a change and I am so looking forward to watching him dance with her little girl at her wedding.

Wedding Drama

I need advice. As you may have gathered, if you have read any of my past posts, our daughter Shauna is getting married in June. She is the first of our daughters to get married. She and Ryan have been together since her senior year in High School. First time I saw him I thought to myself “Oh my God! There is no way I want my daughter dating this guy with hair longer than mine, tattooed, eyebrow pierced and in a band no less!” But he was here to stay and we got to know him. He was/is awesome with the Terrible Trio. My dog, Abby loved him. And it wasn't long before we did too.

Two years they had Riley.  They did not want to get married at that time but always knew they would. They wanted to do it on their own time frame, not everyone else's. Now is their time frame. So we started making wedding plans. I wanted this be a wonderful time and a beautiful night and a very inclusive time for both of our families. It has not turned out that way.

I have asked his mother on several occasions if she would like to take part in different aspects of planning phases. There was always an excuse as to why she could not. Shauna's 3 sisters and his sister are the bridesmaids. We picked the dresses without his sister there because she couldn't be, but his mom tried to get out of buying a dress from the place we used. All of the dresses are the same color, but she wanted her friend to make her daughters? At the time I didn't understand it. The dresses were not that expensive, around $100. And they more than have the income to afford that. I would understand if they did not.

Well apparently his mother, reluctantly, told Shauna the other day that his dad said when they first decided to get married that he was not spending any money at all on this wedding! Well first of all, I haven't asked them to pay for anything, yet. But there are things that traditionally the grooms family do pay for. Rehearsal dinner, etc.. I just don't know what to think! This is their only son! They gave me a guest list with 60 to 65 people on it! I am supposed to feed these people, but they don't want to contribute? Oh, but they do want to use the flower girl dress that I paid $100 for, for Riley to wear at their daughter's wedding ceremony in the fall. A wedding that they are paying for!  The thing that bothers me is that these people are better of financially than we are.  So I am only left to assume that they have a problem with my daughter?  Hopefully this is not the case.

Anyway, we are going to dinner with them tonight. We are going out so it will be neutral territory. They know it is to discuss wedding stuff but I didn't say anything about knowing what he had said. Hopefully he will have changed his mind and all will be good. But if not my thoughts are...Well if I have to cover their part I will have to make cuts in the guest list and by rights it will be their guest. And since they are having no part in it, then their names should be left off of the announcements in the paper. I really hate it, but I just see any other way. Any other ideas?

Monday Morning

Woke up this morning and the sun is shining again, the sky is blue and the wind has stopped howling around the house like some spooky Halloween movie! Abby and Mylie were so excited to play outside this morning. Well mostly Mylie played, Abby just walked around the yard and enjoyed the sun. Roxie went out and did her patrol the yard thing and reported back that all was well and went back to bed.

Now I have a whole day with no kids today, but instead a husband. What am I going to do with him home all day? Actually he is home all week, and maybe next week too. His company is waiting on a contract to be signed by program manager. It's been sitting on his desk for over a month, but he hasn't signed yet. Husband still gets paid, but there is no work so he stays home. That's all well and good, but just what in the hell am I supposed to do with him all day? Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

I love my husband! He truly is my best friend! But, when he is bored he drives me crazy. And when he is home for any extended period he disrupts my routine and the kids routine.

Actually today I plan for him to help me move furniture from one room to another. I want to swap the kids rooms with each other. Tomorrow he has doctors appointments. So that takes care of that. Friday will Gabrielle's birthday and that day is full. So really, I just need suggests for Wednesday and Thursday of this week. Hopefully he will return to work next week and I won't have consider more drastic measures, such as rat poison in his food!

Another Yucky Saturday

Another Saturday Morning and more grey skies and rain is in the forcast for the day.  Actually, the entire weekend.  The kids will be this afternoon as well as Shauna and Riley.  We are going to try to invitations addressed today.  You noticed I said try because we will also be trying to keep Riley out of the guinea pigs cage, out of the dogs food and water and pretty much out of whatever it is that she knows she is not supposed to be in.  Doesn't matter that there is 1.3 million dollars worth of toys in their rooms just for them to play with.  They want my stuff.

And what is about the phone that makes kids think there is a cloak of invisibility or immunity around them that they can do whatever they want whenever you are on it.  They can be sitting there on the couch watching their favorite movie (at the moment it's The Chipmunks, The Squeaquel), oblivious to everything.  The house could burn down.  They wouldn"t know.  But OMG!  Let me try to talk on the phone and suddenly they are running through the house, climbing the furniture to jump off, playing in the water, fighting and screaming and calling each other "poopheads" and then running to tell me that so & so called me a "poop"!  At this point I am like "Yeah, well wait till you hear what I am fixing to call all of you!" 

I get off the phone and start yelling at them, mainly I can be heard over them, and obviously I am not happy.  They don't know why?  They just wanted to watch their movie?  Oh God help me, what time do their mothers get off?